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“The only limits in our life are those we impose on ourselves.” — Bob Proctor
You’ve been lied to.
Over and over again.
Now, before you start pointing fingers, take a breath because while it’s a difficult truth to face, the person who has been lying to you the most may very well be yourself.
We all do it—whether consciously or subconsciously—we tell ourselves things that aren’t true, stories that limit our potential and cloud our understanding of who we really are. These self-imposed lies can be deeply ingrained, shaping our beliefs and behaviors in ways that hold us back from living our fullest, most authentic lives.
I want to help you uncover these lies and replace them with empowering truths that can transform the way you see yourself and the world around you.
The Lies We Tell Ourselves
We all have an inner voice, and sometimes, it’s not very kind.
Often the voice tells us we’re not enough, that we’re unworthy of love, or that we don’t measure up to the people around us. These are some of the most common lies we tell ourselves, and they can be incredibly damaging.
Personally, I’ve struggled with lies like “I’m not good enough,” “I’m not loved or worthy of love,” and “I’m not someone that people want to be friends with.” These thoughts may creep in during moments of self-doubt, comparison, or when things aren’t going as planned.
These lies often become a vicious cycle. We tell ourselves these negative things, and over time, they start to feel like the truth. The more we repeat them, the more they shape our self-esteem and influence our actions. We might avoid opportunities, withdraw from relationships, or settle for less than we deserve—all because we’ve convinced ourselves that these lies are reality.
The Power of Words and Beliefs
Remember – the language we use, both spoken and internal, is incredibly powerful.
It can either uplift us or tear us down, depending on the words we choose.
When we repeatedly tell ourselves lies, we create a negative energy that can drain our motivation and diminish our sense of self-worth. But the good news is that we have the power to change our narrative by choosing to speak differently about ourselves.
One of the most powerful ways to do this is through “I am” statements. These declarations are not just about describing who we are; they are about affirming our identity and worth. When we say “I am,” we are making a profound statement about ourselves—one that can either reinforce negative beliefs or build up positive ones.
Interestingly, in the Judeo-Christian tradition, “I AM” is also a name of God, which speaks to the divine nature of these words. Whether or not you connect with this tradition, there’s no denying the power in declaring who you truly are. Positive “I am” statements can help you align your thoughts and actions with the person you want to be.
Replacing Lies with Empowering Truths
So, how do we begin to replace the lies we’ve been telling ourselves? The first step is to identify them. Pay attention to the negative thoughts that pop up in your mind—those moments when you find yourself saying:
- I am not enough
- I am not loved or even worthy of love
- I am not someone that people want to be friends with
- I am not as good as everyone else I see on social media, at work, etc.
Once you’ve identified these lies, challenge them. Ask yourself, “Is this really true?” and “Where did this belief come from?”
Next, replace these lies with empowering truths. For example, instead of saying, “I’m not enough,” you might say, “I am enough just as I am.” Instead of “I’m not worthy of love,” you could affirm, “I am worthy of love and connection.” These positive statements may feel uncomfortable at first, especially if you’ve been telling yourself the opposite for a long time. But with practice, they can start to reshape your self-perception.
One technique I find helpful is to write down these affirmations in a journal every day. Statements like:
- I am a son of a loving God.
- I am a loving husband and father.
- I am an author (I took on that identity as I began writing this book).
- I am intentional.
- I am full of value to bring to the world.
- I am a good man.
- I am enough.
Over time, these affirmations help me stay aligned with the truth of who I am, rather than the lies that try to hold me back.
The Importance of Self-Belief
Believing in your inherent worth and potential is transformative. When you truly believe that you are valuable, loved, and capable, your actions will naturally start to reflect that belief. You’ll be more likely to pursue your goals, take risks, and connect with others in meaningful ways. Self-belief is not about arrogance or ego—it’s about recognizing the truth of your worth and living in alignment with that truth.
It’s also important to remember that you don’t have to go through this journey alone. If you’re struggling to shift your internal narrative, seek support. Whether through individual coaching, group coaching, or simply connecting with others who uplift and encourage you, having support can make all the difference.
Seeking Support and Connection
Changing the way you talk to yourself can be challenging, especially if you’ve been holding onto these lies for a long time. That’s why seeking support is so important. Whether you reach out to a coach, therapist, or trusted friend, connecting with someone who can help you see the truth about yourself can be incredibly empowering.
As someone who loves helping people through coaching and speaking experiences, I encourage you to reach out if you’re struggling. Whether it’s through my website, LinkedIn, or any other platform, I’m here to support you on your journey to self-empowerment. Together, we can work to shift your internal narrative and unlock your potential in your career and life.
The lies we tell ourselves can be some of the most damaging influences on our lives, but they don’t have to define us. By recognizing these lies and replacing them with empowering truths, we can reclaim our true identity and live more fulfilling, authentic lives.
Remember — you are valuable, you are loved, and you are enough, just as you are. So, let’s start speaking the truth to ourselves and watch how it transforms our lives.
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